Despite uncertainty about how her body would handle pregnancy given her history as a burn survivor, Sophie and her partner Joseph were blessed with a relatively smooth path to conception. “We were just very lucky that it happened a lot easier than we expected,” she reflects, noting that her pregnancy progressed with surprising normalcy – a welcome relief after years of medical complexities.

Approaching her care with characteristic thoughtfulness, Sophie chose North Shore Hospital on the recommendation of her best friend, an ICU nurse. She developed a strong connection with her care providers, who proved invaluable in supporting her unique needs. Though her early pregnancy brought intense fatigue, she was spared morning sickness, managing her work-from-home schedule around much-needed rest.

At 36 weeks, routine monitoring revealed concerns about Frankie’s growth, with his abdominal measurements dropping and placental function declining. This led to twice-weekly monitoring and ultimately, the decision to deliver at 37 weeks. While Sophie’s initial preference was for a vaginal birth, her medical team carefully guided her through the decision to have a planned cesarean, taking extra care to address her anxieties about returning to an operating theater – a space that held difficult memories from childhood surgeries.

“My obstetrician is so amazing,” Sophie shares, describing how they walked her through the operating theater beforehand, adjusting the environment to help her feel comfortable. This thoughtful preparation helped transform what could have been a triggering experience into what Sophie describes as “peaceful” – complete with chosen music playing as Frankie entered the world “midway through song number two.”

Remarkably, Sophie’s burns proved less impactful on her pregnancy than might have been expected. Having been lying on her stomach during her childhood accident, her abdomen was protected, allowing her belly to stretch comfortably during pregnancy. This fortunate circumstance meant she could carry to term without complications from scarring.

Post-birth, Sophie has embraced a flexible approach to feeding, successfully combining breastfeeding with formula – a decision that’s allowed both parents to bond with Frankie through feeding moments. “There’s a saying that breast is best, but at the end of the day, fed is best,” she reflects, advocating for less pressure and more support for all feeding choices.

When it comes to navigating motherhood with a disability, Sophie’s practical approach shines through. Rather than relying on specialized equipment, she prefers adapting everyday products to suit her needs, such as choosing a bedside bassinet with a zip-down side for easier access. Her partner’s support during his parental leave has also been crucial in establishing their new family rhythm.

The experience has given Sophie a renewed appreciation for her body’s capabilities. “I view my body in such a different way,” she shares. “That was the easiest medical experience of my life.” Her story offers powerful encouragement to other disabled women considering motherhood: “Nothing’s going to determine how great of a mother you are or how you’re able to carry your child.”

Now enjoying life with Frankie, Sophie finds joy in the slow moments – first walks, first glimpses of the ocean, and the luxury of unhurried time together. Her story powerfully illustrates that past medical challenges don’t necessarily dictate future experiences, while offering hope and inspiration to others navigating similar paths.