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In this week’s episode I chat to Yahna about her experience with shared care (pregnancy care shared between a GP and the hospital). As she explains, she believed that shared care offered continuity of care when in actual fact, she was seen by many different midwives in her third trimester and treated as a number on the maternity ward. After days of spurious (false) labour she was induced but due to a bed shortage, laboured in multiple rooms before she was given a birthing suite. Despite the upheaval of her experience, Yahna reflects on the joy of breastfeeding and the deep bond with baby Sunday, the first biological family member she has ever known. As an adoptee, Yahna admits that when she gave birth, she also gained a newfound love and respect for her birth mother.
Baby Sunday was a happy accident. Yahna had been on the pill for 16 years when she decided to take a break after seeing a Traditional Chinese Medicine doctor.
“When you’re not planning to conceive a baby, there’s a long thought process…can we afford this? Can we do this? Are we ready? With time we eased into the idea of it and became really excited.
“I was in the dark when it came to birthing choices but I decided to do shared care with my local GP, thinking that it was a continuity of care model but that wasn’t the case. I’d like to point out that it may be continuity of care with your GP but it’s not with the midwives and they’ll be the ones with you at your birth. At my postnatal GP check-up I actually shared my disappointment with the GP and admitted that it was sold as a continuity of care model which it definitely wasn’t. She apologised to me so I felt like I resolved it for myself.”
Yahna felt invincible for the first five months of my pregnancy; she had no nausea or fatigue, she continued her work in advertising and yoga teacher, she studied and kept up with her social life. But that all came to a sudden halt when she broke her ankle and spent 13-and-a-half weeks in a knee-to-toe cast.
“Up until that point I was struggling with my new identity, especially because I wasn’t on the same journey as the other women in my community, I was pushing myself to keep up with who I used to be and not who I was becoming.
“I couldn’t wash myself, I couldn’t cook…my husband did everything for me but it showed me how capable he was as a carer. It really paved a nice dynamic for the two of us to enter into parenthood.”
Throughout that time, Yahna worked from home and delved into birth books including Spiritual Midwifery by Ina May Gaskin. With free time and a passionate heart, she advocated for a change to the maternity leave policy at her work. At the time, her employer only offered one week paid maternity leave (one year unpaid), so Yahna did an industry audit and subsequently prompted her employer to change their policy to two month’s paid leave. She also created a how-to guide for completing the Centrelink maternity leave form which you can access at HERE
“When my due date rolled by I was devastated; I really wanted to meet her and I was really impatient. I had spurious (false) labour for five days…I went to the hospital twice and got sent home and they’d say the next day you’ll be in and you’ll have a baby and then I didn’t.
“I ate seven pineapples, I was drinking litres of raspberry leaf tea and eating so many different curries. I went in to get induced at 4pm and I got the prostaglandin gel on the cervix to ripen it; they told me I might need three rounds of it to get it working. At 10:30pm my waters broke and I called my husband to come back to the hospital and it was really on; my contractions were strong and hard but I couldn’t get a nice sense of rhythm with my breath or my body.”
Yahna wasn’t moved into a birthing suite till 3pm the next day; the hospital was so busy that she was just shuffled from one room to the next. At that point she was 3cm and she felt like she was failing. At 4pm she couldn’t stand any longer and opted for an epidural.
“The epidural let me rest, I could gather and compose myself and get back into my body because before then I felt completely out of control. At 9pm the midwives started talking about the possibility of a caesarean; a decision purely based on the time I had been labouring as there were no concerns for the baby. The next time the midwives checked me I was 8cm and once I was fully dilated the midwives coached me through pushing. I had an episiotomy and Sunday was born. I expressed colostrum to feed her for the first day but then I found breastfeeding really easy and peaceful; it was always natural and intuitive. I’m still feeding her now at 18months…I’d only heard negative breastfeeding stories so it came as a beautiful surprise.
“I did a month in sitting which is very typical of Chinese and Korean culture; that traditional method of staying in for a month after birth and eating warm, nourishing foods was my way of paying homage to my culture and roots.
“I started seeing a perinatal therapist after birth because parenthood is so monumental; it’s nice to have someone in a neutral space to help you process your emotions – the anger, sadness and guilt – it helps keep me balanced and in check.”
Yahna has created a three-week birth preparation immersion course called Radiant Birth which is run out of Northcote yoga studio, Fort Green Yoga. It combines TCM, yoga, breathwork, asana, meditation, birth education and nutrition for pregnant women.
“I wanted to create a sense of community before you give birth; I want women to find their people before birth so they’ve got that infrastructure when they become mothers.”
Adoption, Spurious labour, Shared care, Vaginal birth, Induction, Breastfeeding, Episiotomy
If you’d like to connect with Yahna and find out more about Radiant Birth click HERE
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